Someone must be to blame, right? There must be a fault somewhere for a dog to be snarling and lunging at anything. A lack of training, not enough discipline, just a downright nasty temperament? One of these things has to be true for a dog to be 'reactive' (which is, of course, just another name for aggressive!)
No, I haven't gone rogue or lost the last remaining traces of my sanity. This is something that grinds my gears when I see it - blaming. Blaming the dog or blaming the guardian for some supposed 'thing' that they either have or have not done that has turned the dog into this problem.
I have a number of issues with this concept. I refuse to call Finn's reactivity a problem. It can be an issue, in certain circumstances, and it is something that we, his family, have to think about and consider in just about any situation that might come up, but it is not a problem. Finn has difficulties dealing with certain factors in the world. That is not a problem, it is a particular and special need that he has for our understanding and consideration. Yes, it can make our lives complicated and difficult at times, but that is definitely not Finn's fault. He never asked to live in a world he finds scary. There are things that I didn't get quite right in trying to equip Finn to deal with the world, I acknowledge that fact. There were also things that I had no control over that contributed to his fear and lack of confidence.